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Thoughts of an “old enough” on Premarital Sex

The issue of premarital sex is one of the classic favorite topics of high school and even college debates. Since one can easily make a stand, defend and validate it. PMS is very controversial; the church is against it for so long, since they consider it immoral and sinful. Most of the parents detest it, since it can be one of the major reasons of their disappointment and failure on their sons and daughters. But on the perspective of us, consider as “young adult”, premarital sex is something very casual. Since everybody is doing it, means that it’s more like a gift to be enjoyed and shared with the person you love rather than something to be spiteful of.

PMS is not a sin but a choice.

To have sex with a person you’re not married with is premarital sex in its simplest definition. In our Western counterparts who are way liberated than we do, premarital sex for them is associated by dating; PMS can be shared even by acquaintances. But in our case, Catholic values taught us to treat PMS or sex in a very sinful way. That, we should avoid or not give in to any temptations it possesses. But what makes something wrong or bad is your interpretation and understanding towards things. That’s why men are given all the free will to make decisions in situations like these. It’s like saying that there is no right and wrong answer if you know how to always make it right. It all depends on you.

The stand of an “old enough”

To believe that virginity is the greatest gift you can give to your husband someday is a very old story of a hopeless woman. But that every inch of thought is the unwritten rule I had set for myself. Though a lot of people are doing it, doesn’t necessarily mean that one should also do it, just to make himself/herself one of them. Sex can wait at the right place for the right person and with the right reasons. If all of those things come, and I’m not yet married then I’ll embrace PMS with open heart and mind.

Not against it

PMS is a fruit of people that is truly in love with each other, never a proof of it. What makes PMS fall more on the negative side is the consequences that it may bring after. Unprepared pregnancy and STDs to name a few is just so heavy for a person who half-heartedly did the deed. PMS is not a wrong thing to do but it is a serious act that entails consequences and sacrifices. Thus, one should truly be prepared before getting into the bandwagon. After all PMS is at its sweetest if you know you’re safe.